Vyos 1.3-rolling-202005130117 strange memory usage in 2020001311637 never had this problem

You’d be better off to try and understand what’s using all the memory.
What does top show?

As per this post it might be helpful to capture all the files in /var/log/atop

I have no idea of the config on your router, or its average memory load though, maybe you DO need more RAM? I doubt it though if it’s been stable with this amount previously.